A little boy lost – preview.

Hi my sweet sweet friends! I know I haven’t posted in a while. Honestly I feel like you guys should be used to that 😂

The last 6 months have been a challenge to say the least. I’m finally ready to open up about our experience. I promise a more in-depth post is coming.

Like I said, the past 6 months have been a challenge. However, I’m so thankful for this experience. It’s been so eye opening. I’ve learned so much about myself, and my son. I’m thankful for the son god has given me, autism and all. I’m thankful that I get to share all of this with all of you.

Originally,I wanted to share this on my Instagram but I felt a more “formal” post was necessary. This picture is from last weekend, and it’s completely changed my outlook on our battle with autism. This moment is when it finally hit me that all of this was worth it. Most importantly it reminded me to keep trusting myself and Tyler as parents. This journey as been a long one and it’s no where near finished yet but we’re getting there.

For those of you who don’t have a lot of exposure to autism you may not understand why this is a big deal. Don’t worry, I’ll expalin 😉. 6 months ago my son lost almost all eye contact and he stopped talking. He became clumsy, and withdrawan. He was trapped within himself, but we’re slowly getting him back. This picture proves it.

For the parents who feel like they’re fighting a loosing battle don’t give up. You are not alone. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. You got this. I believe in you.

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Xoxo

Destiny

 

Raising a child without a voice: My non-verbal toddler.

It’s been a while since I’ve uploaded, I know that. I needed some time away. You see, I started this blog for myself. Sort of a digital journal. It was something I enjoyed, and then it wasn’t. So, I took some much needed time off. I’d like to give a big thank you to the people who emailed me in my absence, and the people who continued to share my posts. You truly have no idea how much that means to me. That’s enough explaining, on to today’s post.

I’m sure most of you are confused because I’ve never shared this part of my life before. Whenever I mention Walter, I mention how proud I am of him and how much I love him. Both of those things are true, but I’m afraid by being too positive I’ve contributed to a twisted perception of people on the spectrum. ( I’m using the term ” on the spectrum” because Walter hasn’t been officiously diagnosed but i’ll share more about that in a different post.) Most of the time when I tell people Walter is on the spectrum, I hear “but he looks so normal!”, or my personal favorite ” really?! He seems so smart!”.  It’s 2018 people! How is that so little is understood about people with autism. Why don’t we talk more openly about a condition that affects 1 in 68 children? Trust me, I know I’m contributing to the linear view people have of autism because I never share the bad parts. I’m never honest with people when the ask what it’s really like to have a child on the spectrum. Most of the time I’m not even honest with myself. So, In order to help people get a better understanding of my son, myself, and every other person on the spectrum I’m sharing the honest truth…autism sucks. There, I said it.

There are incredible joy-filled moments, and Walter is a truly incredible kid who I’ll love forever but Sometimes I want to pull my hair out! I have Moments when I just want to scream or cry, or both. Raising a non-verbal child is difficult. It’s hard for us, his parents, but it’s especially hard on him. We have to work through a lot of frustration every single day. I’d like you to visualize our day. Close your eyes for a second. Now imagine that you’re really hungry but you depend on someone else to feed you. Now, imagine how you’d feel if you needed food but you had no way of communicating that. You try to talk but only gibberish comes out. Then, you try to mime what you want but you can’t seem to make your hands move the right way. It sounds horrible, doesn’t it? That’s life for so many people on the spectrum.

As Walter’s mother, I want to make everything better. I want to help him. I want so badly to fix “it”. I don’t want to fix him. I want to do what other moms do. They make things better. But I can’t, not me. When Walter needs something and I’m unable to understand him, I feel powerless. I scrabble frantically trying to figure out what it is. I spend a few minutes showing him various items in the hopes that maybe he’ll want one of them. When I’m wrong – which I usually am – things go down hill quickly. He gets frustrated, and I can’t blame him. He puts in so much effort, despritaly trying to communicate his needs to me and time after time I fail to comprehend what he’s saying. I can usually feel the tension build as I continue to guess the wrong thing. The grunts will get louder and louder until he’s spiraling into a full on melt down. Once we’ve reached this point there’s really not much I can do to soothe  him. I patiently wait for him to self regulate by stimming, all the while feeling helpless…

When you hear me say that I wouldn’t trade Walter for the world, I mean it. He’s truly an incredible child. Everyday he teaches me about perseverance, courage, and love. He shows me what joy looks like, and I really wouldn’t change that for anything! What I would like to change are his struggles.

To my darling Walter: If you ever read this, know that I’m trying my best. Know that if I could carry this burden for you I would. Know that I’m fighting for you, and will continue  to fight for you until all the pieces fit.

To the autism Mama: You got this, I promise. It’ll be hard but it’ll also be beautiful. You are loved. You are enough. You are strong. You are #autismstrong!

Xoxo,

Destiny

 

 

 

Healing Tooth Decay Naturally

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Hello friends! I’ve gotten an incredible amount of questions regarding Walter’s teeth since my last post. So as promised, I’m going to share what I’ve learned about demineralization, as well as the toothpaste recipe we’ll be using to help combat the problem.

This simplest place for me to begin is explaining what demineralization is, and why you don’t want it happening to your little one’s teeth. Before I get into that I want to stress that no amount of natural toothpaste will help if your diet isn’t in order. When the diet is right, a natural toothpaste that facilitates remineralization will help.

Alright, so what is demineralization?
To put it simply, demineralization is the breakdown of tooth enamel. It is the earliest form of tooth decay and is most commonly seen on the surface of the teeth as frosty white spots. Demineralization can be caused by eating a lot of processed sugar and drinking acidic things like coffee and soda. If you’re anything like me, you’d never allow your kids to have things like that. So, you’re probably wondering how the hell your kid ended up with dissolving tooth enamel. Don’t worry I felt the exact same way. I felt like all the hard work I had done to ensure my son had a healthy diet was all of nothing. I never thought for a second the healthy fruits I was feeding him could cause his teeth to break down. The sugar, and acid in fruit can soften the enamel is left on the surface of the teeth for too long. I want to stress that I am in no way saying you shouldn’t feed your child fruit because it will ruin their teeth. I still give my son fruit every single day, and that will never change. However, now that I know he has softer enamel then most I take special care to clean his teeth after he eats fruit. I encourage him to drink water right after having fruit, and if he eats something very acidic, like oranges, I’ll brush his teeth once he’s finished eating.

Now that we’ve gone over all that boring stuff, I’ll get into the recipe we’re using.
After doing a ton of research, I found a recipe I was comfortable using here..
If you have no desire to make your own toothpaste, or simply don’t have the time, you can find a natural toothpaste right here. 😊

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Natural Toothpaste for Healing cavities, and Demineralization.

Ingredients
6 Tablespoons of organic virgin coconut oil, or red palm oil (FIND IT HERE)
1 Tablespoon Baking soda. Make sure it aluminum free!
5 Tablespoons calcium carbonate (FIND IT HERE)
1-2 Tablespoons food grade bentonite clay (FIND IT HERE)
20-30 Drops Peppermint essential oil. (If you’re not comfortable using EO you can use Peppermint flavoring)
5-10 Drops lemon essential oil (Again, you can substitute lemon flavoring)
30 Drops trace minerals (FIND IT HERE)
Filtered water as needed. Please make sure you’re using filtered water and NOT tap water. It’s important there is no fluoride, or chlorine in the water you use.

Instructions
Mix the ingredients in a glass or plastic bowl, and store in a glass container. Some people think the transition is easier if the toothpaste is in a squeezable tube. You can find refillable silicon tubes here..
It’s extremely important that you DO NOT use any metal tools to mix your toothpaste. The bentonite clay will become inactive when it meets metal.

Suggested Use
Brush teeth twice daily with a natural toothbrush. We like these.. Before nighttime brushing you can add one drop of Lugol’s Iodine to the toothbrush. It’s extremely important to check with a medical professional before adding iodine to your routine. You only want to use the iodine if you know you or your child has a deficiency.
Also, be sure to consult with a dentist, preferably a holistic one, to ensure that any problem with cavities or demineralization is truly improving and not worsening.

If you’re interested in more information of healing dental problems naturally I highly suggest you read the book “Cure Tooth Decay” by Ramiel Nagel. You can find a link to it here.

Make sure you join the family by signing up for email notifications. Next week I’ll be sharing more about our no spend month, and you don’t want to miss it!

Until next time my friends

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Disclaimer: Obviously I’m not a dentist. I’m just a mom who has read a lot of articles about teeth and feels comfortable making toothpaste for my family. Please take everything I’ve written here with a grain of salt. Do you own research, don’t just listen to people on the internet.

Our No Spend Month: Two Weeks In.

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Hi there, my sweet sweet friends! I hope the first two weeks of 2018 have treated you well. I’m sure a lot of you are wondering how we’ve been holding up during our no Spend challenge. I’ll be honest with you, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it definitely hasn’t gone the way I planned. However, I’ve learned a lot these past two weeks and I’m looking forward to finishing this challenge on a positive note.

So what exactly went wrong? Well, the simplest explanation would be that we spent money when we weren’t supposed to. In the past, I probably would have just given up. I would have felt defeated, and probably would have never attempted a no Spend challenge again. This time, I decided to practice what I preach and just roll with it.

So here’s what happened. First, Walter had to have some blood work done (don’t worry he’s fine, I’ll be writing about this soon), so Tyler and I decided to treat him with a trip to the children’s museum. While we were out, we got lunch with my mother. Now, I could have used this opportunity to save money like I was supposed to. I could have easily told my mother that we couldn’t go to lunch because we weren’t spending money this month, but I didn’t. I chose to hang out with my mom instead of saving thirty bucks, and I’m glad we did it. Like I said, I could have easily said no, or we could have done something free but we didn’t. I’ve chosen not to beat myself up about. 2018 is all about being patient with myself.

Our second exception to our no Spend challenge was buying supplements for Walter. Recently we discovered Walter has some demineralization on his two front teeth. In order to combat this issue, Tyler and I have decided to try to remineralize his teeth with a homemade toothpaste, and some small changes to his diet. If you’re interested in our toothpaste recipe, and the exact supplements Walter will be on make sure you check back next week. I’ll be writing a post all about it.

If you decided to join us during our no Spend month, I’d love to hear how it’s going. Feel free to leave me a comment here or on my Instagram! I’ll be doing a full recap of the month, and going over exactly what I’ve learned from the experience at the end of the month. Make sure you subscribe so you get an email notification every time I make a post!

Until next time. I’m sending you lots of love, and all the positive vibes.

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Our No Spend Month

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As we begin a new year, I know I’m not the only one looking to make some changes. I’m usually not one for New Year’s resolutions but I figured I’d give it a shot in 2018.

I’m looking forward to a year or personal development, financial security, and happiness. I’m wishing you and your family the same 🙂

Let’s just jump right into it. I’m sure the title grabbed your attention(that kinda the point). And I know a lot of you are wondering how we plan on going an entire month without spending any money. I’ll start by explaining what a no spend challenge is, then I’ll lay out the rules that my family has chosen to follow during our no spend month.

So, what is a no spend challenge?

well, it’s a period when you chose not to spend any money what so ever. I know it sounds ridiculous and absolutely impossible.  A lot of you a rolling your eyes, and probably thinking to yourself ” okay, this B*tch is crazy.”.  I promise it will all come together in a minute, just hang in there.

Now that you have a basic understanding of what a no spend challenge is, I want to share with you exactly what we plan to get out of our no spend challenge and how we’re bending the rules (just a tad) to make it work for our family.

Being content with what we have.

This is first on the list because this is the most important element to our challenge…for me at least. As I continue to grow as a person I want to push myself further out of my comfort zone. I’m no stranger to wanting things, and I know most of you aren’t either. It’s okay to want nice things, really it is. The problem is when you want things solely for the purpose of having things. If you’re using material items to fill a space within yourself (like I was), I strongly recommend you do a little self reflection and more importantly some self love. I’m encouraging you to step outside your comfort zone as well, and spend some time figuring out exactly what it is you need in life.

Stop mindless spending.

This one goes hand in hand with our first goal, but I figured I’d give it it’s own little moment because I know someone people are struggling just like we are. My partner and I have a horrible habit of spending money on “little things” without realizing that all of those “little things” add up. Budgeting our money is something that we’re both very unfamiliar with, and to be honest sometimes it makes me really uncomfortable. I hate the idea of having to miss out on something that I want or feel I need or deserve because I need to save money. However, this year we’ve decided to do everything we can to change our habit of mindless spending. We’re determined to teach our son something different and to break the cycle of living paycheck to paycheck.

Paying off debt.

For some odd reason, this is something no one ever wants to talk about. Honestly, I find that strange because being in debt is something so many people struggle with, especially millennials. Like some many other people our age, Tyler and I both have a ton of student loans debt as well as a fair amount of credit card debt. Plus, we both have cars we’re still paying for. Don’t worry, I’m not going to go into exact numbers but trust me when I say we owe a lot of people a lot of fucking money.  How hope is that this no spend month will help us put more money towards our debts, and put us one step closer to being debt free!

Now that you know exactly what we’ve hoping to gain from our no spend month, its time to see exactly how this thing works.

Rules number one is simple, don’t spend any money. This is usually where people get hung up and decide that this type of challenge isn’t for them.  Hopefully, I can help you understand things a little bit better. So obviously it’s impossible to spend absolutely no money what so ever ( for most people at least). Most of us have a family to support and a set of constant bills that have to be paid every single month.  During our no spend month we’re of course going to pay for things like our rent etc. But that’s it, we’ve no allowing ourselves to spend money on anything else.  To make it simple I’ll create a little list so you’ll know exactly what we’re choosing to spend money on and what we’re not. There are a million and one ways to do a no spend challenge, I encourage you to take a look at our list and decide what works for your family and what doesn’t.

Here’s what we’ll be spending money on this month

  • Our rent- obviously we need a place to live 🙂
  • Groceries- we’ll be sticking to a much tighter grocery budget than usual
  • Gas- we have to get to work somehow
  • Our monthly bills- like electric, car payments, phones, etc.

And here’s what we’re not spending our money on this month

  • Anything that isn’t on the list above- pretty simple right 😉

Like I said before, there are a million and one ways to do a no spend challenge. Take some notes and figure out what works best for you.

I’ll be doing a check in during the middle of the month, just to let you guy know how things are going. I’ll also be making a post at the end of the challenge, so make sure you sign up for email notifications so you don’t miss a post!

It’s 2018, chase your dreams, end toxic relationships, live the kind of life you want to. Happiness is up to you.

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Overcoming my Smart Phone Addiction

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Recently I noticed my son starting to act out. He would walk over and smack our television, or snatch my phone out of my hand. At first, this really irritated me. Then I took a second to think about why he had developed these new behaviors, he was acting out because he felt like I was ignoring him.

I know that this is a touchy subject, and I know that there are people who will think I’m crazy because I (kind of) gave up the internet for five days. Trust me, I’m not one of those people that thinks technology is evil and is destroying the world as we know it. However, I do believe it can turn us into people that we don’t want to be. I know that technology, my phone, in particular, helps me fill empty space. It’s the first thing I reach for when I’m bored, feeling uncomfortable, or just don’t know what else I should be doing. Honestly, there are times I reach for my phone for no reason, I just picked it up to mindlessly scroll through Facebook. I’m not trying to say that it’s a problem for everyone, but for me, smart phone addiction was truly an issue. That’s why I decided to give it up for a week (a work week of course).

I’ll be honest, I didn’t give my phone up completely. I’m too much of a baby for that. I still allowed myself some screen time, although it was extremely limited. I told myself I could still text, or call people. Mainly because I have a son, and if something were to happen to him I’ll need to be reached quickly. And, because I have a full-blown addiction, and was afraid I wouldn’t be able to function without my phone at all. I also allowed myself to access Youtube. If you’ve read my post about my autistic burnout, you’ll know that I consider Youtube one of my stims. It’s extremely important for me to be able to deal with my anxiety in a healthy way, and watching Youtube videos helps me do that. So, I allowed myself to continue to watch YouTube but only under certain circumstances. I could only watch it if my son was asleep for the night, or I couldn’t control my anxiety with another form of stimming. Other than that, I had no access to my phone. Now I’m sure you guys are thinking “what the hell, she didn’t give up much!”, and you’re kind of right. I could still text and call people and I could still enjoy Youtube. However, I didn’t allow myself access to Facebook, Instagram, or another form of social media. Some may see that as a small victory, and that okay.

I do want to make it perfectly clear that I never intended to give up social media, or my phone forever. I wanted this experiment to be a learning experience for me, and it was just that. I learned a lot about myself over the last five days, and I’m incredibly proud and ashamed of myself all at the same time. I’m ashamed that I ever let my phone control so much of my life. I’m ashamed that I allowed my phone to change the way I interacted with my son. However, I’m proud that I was able to put my ego aside and realize when I had a problem. I’m also very proud that I didn’t slip up, not even for a second 😊. I’m hoping that some of you reading this will take my advice, and go on a technology detox yourselves. I think I could do us all some good, to step away from all our distractions for a little bit.

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So, here’s what I learned.

I can get a lot of Sh*t done without my phone.

This one actually surprised me a lot. I never realized how much time I spent staring at my phone. All this week I was able to get myself, my son ready, and be out the door ahead of schedule. That was something that never happened before. I would wake up, and immediately grab my phone and be stuck in a trance until about ten minutes before I had to leave. I would always complain about how I never had enough time to do anything when in reality I was just using my time to check my Instagram feed. If there’s one habit I keep from this past week, I’ll be not looking at my phone in the morning. Giving up my screen time in the morning alleviated a lot of the anxiety I felt throughout the day. I realized that having a smoother start to my day changed my entire attitude.

I Spend a lot of time curating moments.

Now I know I’m not the only guilty one here. How many of you find yourself trying to capture beautiful moments of your kid with your phone? Spoiler alert, the answer is all of you. OF course, you want to get that really cute picture of your kid, who doesn’t? You’re trying to capture a memory, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m not telling you to stop taking pictures, or videos of moments you want to remember forever. I’m simply encouraging you to participate in some of those moments as well.  Let someone else take the pictures, or hell, get really wild and don’t take any photos at all. Be present. Live in the moment. Focus on the here and now.

I was able to make real connections with people again.

This is something that I really struggled with. I allowed my phone to put up a wall between me and other people. I’m socially awkward, and sometimes being around people makes me really uncomfortable. Therefore, I find it incredibly difficult to interact with people. Without knowing it, I used my phone to combat this issue Whenever I was uncomfortable or didn’t know what to say I would start scrolling on my phone. Not having my phone this week forced me to learn a new coping skill. I either interacted with the people around me or sat in awkward silence without using my phone as a crutch.

I had FOMO like a MOFO

This was honestly the thing I struggled with most. I’m a little embossed to admit that I actually had anxiety attacks because I was afraid of missing out. I no longer had that instant access to information the way I had before. It made me feel very disconnected from the world…at first. Then a realized that 99.9% of the crap I looked at on Facebook, or Instagram was pointless.

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I know that this isn’t for everyone, but I’m hoping some of you will decide to take back some of the power you’ve lost through your phone. I know that I’m going to make a conscious effect to keep my phone face down when I’m with others. I’m going to start making meaningful connections again, and I encourage you to do the same.

See ya next time!

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First World Problems

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Hello, my sweet sweet friends!

If you celebrate Thanksgiving, I hope you had a blast last week. Even if you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, I still hope you had a blast last week 😉

Per usual, I’ve had a tremendous amount of anxiety (I swear one day I’ll get it under control). Like always, I’m stressing about things that really don’t matter. So, I’m making a list off all these tiny insignificant problems to remind myself that it’s okay to be stressed sometimes, but it’s not okay to let things ruin my day.

If you’re in the same boat as me, know that I’m sending you lots of love and positive vibes.

Until next time, here’s a list of my first world problems 🙂

1. Sometimes my washing machine doesn’t spin correctly, and my clothes come out soaking wet.

2. My dog pooped on the floor a few weeks ago

3. My son also pooped on the floor a few weeks ago.

4. I need to update my iPhone, but I hate change.

5. My favorite pair of shoes have a hole in them

6.  I want a table for my entryway, but I’m too cheap to buy one.

7. My son hates diaper changes and screams the whole time.

8. My dog eats out of the trash can

9. I’m autistic, and I’ve had some really bad sensory days.

10. I’m allergic to my deodorant.

11.  My dog is shedding, so I’m always sweeping the floors.

12. I’m behind on laundry… like always.

13. My partner does most of the cooking and sometimes that makes me feel guilty.

14. My dishwasher doesn’t work very well so sometimes the dishes come out dirty.

15. Putting air in my tires makes me nervous, so I’m just ignoring the fact that my tire needs air in it.

This is just a gentle reminder to not let anxiety get the best of you. Take a deep breathe and remember, no ones ever actually died from a panic attack 😉

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Thanksgiving 2017

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Since today is Thanksgiving, I wanted to take some time to slow down and reflect on the things I’m thankful for. This is something I haven’t taken the time to do since grade school (I’m kind of ashamed to say that actually).  Honestly, I never focus enough on the things that I’m thankful for. IT’s far too easy to focus on the negative things in life. Well, this year, I’m determined to focus on the good things in my life.

So here it is, a list of just a few things I’m very, very thankful for.

My little family

I know, this one was pretty predictable. but what can I say, I love my family 🙂

Obviously, I’m incredibly thankful for my partner Tyler, and our son, Walter. The two of you have healed me in ways you’ll probably never understand. I know I don’t say it nearly enough, but I love you, and I’m so unbelievably thankful for the two of you.

My work family

I’m so blessed to be able to work with so many incredibly strong woman. I’m thankful to have you ladies as my co-workers and I’m even more thankful to be able to call you my friends.

My mother and my mother-in-law

Mommy, I don’t think words can express how thankful I am for you. You’re my confidant, my therapist, and my best friend. I love you more than you’ll ever know. I’m so grateful you’re a part of my life.

Laurie, thank you for welcoming me into not only your home but also your family.  I know I’m not the best at showing it, but I love you so much, and I appreciate everything you’ve done for me.

You’re the strongest person I know. You don’t always see that, but I see it and I’m so thankful that I have someone like you to learn from.

Ending toxic relationships

I’m not going into too much detail because it’s still a holiday, and people are supposed to be happy on holidays 🙂

I’m thankful I learned my self worth, and finally chose my emotional well being over family. I’ll leave it at that.

 

I hope you all spend today surrounded by positivity and love. Eat lots of good food, and make sure you take a second to be thankful.

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I’m Just an Okay Mom.

 

REAL MOMI haven’t posted in two weeks; sorry about that. I’ve been going back and forth with myself, trying to decide if I want to post this at all. However, I think it’s important to be honest with you guys. I think it’s even more important that I’m honest with myself, so here it goes. I’m not perfect. I’m not a perfect person, I’m not a perfect partner, I’m not a perfect mother and I’m okay with that.

So, to the moms who feel crappy  because their kid’s lunch wasn’t Pinterest worthy, or because they missed a parent-teacher conference, trust me we’ve all been there. To the mom’s who are about week behind on laundry and had to send their kid to the sitter’s wearing a dirty shirt, don’t freak out cause I’ve been there too mama. To the mom’s who have ever felt like a crappy mom just because they’re stressed and need some space, know that you’re not alone.

I know this post was short, I know this probably wasn’t what most of you were expecting.  So many people refuse to tell it like it is, especially when it comes to parenthood. It’s because people are afraid of what others will think. It’s because people are afraid of being thought of as a bad parent. Well, I’m over it. The truth is, being a parent can be the most incredible (and I mean truly incredible) experience, but sometimes it kinda sucks.

Like I said in the beginning, I’m here to be honest with you guys. I’m not aspiring to be the greatest at anything, I’m just doing the very best I can. It’s taken me a long time to get to this point in my life. I’m finally comfortable enough with myself to say, I’m the world’s “okayest” mom…and I’m fine with it.

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Being Present

 

GUIDE (1)I usually try to post a new blog post at least once a week, but often life gets in the way. Things don’t always work out the way I want them to, and I’m slowly learning to be okay with that. So as much as I wanted to get a blog post up, it just didn’t happen. I won’t lie, at first, I stressed about it. Then, I decided to practice what I preach. I decided to be gentle with myself, to give myself grace, and to allow things to happen the way they happened.

Taking the week off showed me a lot about myself, and the things that trigger my anxiety. It also showed me that, like most, I make progress, and end up getting knocked three steps back. It’s no secret I’ve been on a journey of self-healing, and self-discovery. I’ve talked about it countless times before. Throughout my journey, I’ve learned to take the end with the downs. So, even though last week was filled with anxiety and negative thought, I’m choosing to put it behind me. I’m choosing to move on, to continue to grow, and to heal.

Of course, I wouldn’t feel like myself if I didn’t share some tips with all of you 😊. I hope you find them helpful when you feel like life is becoming too much.

  1. Stay in the present moment.

I know, I know, I talk about this all the time! I’m sure some of you are sick of hearing it, but it’s so important to remember. There’s no rule that says you must be doing a million things at once. If you can stay focused on what’s happening right now, you don’t have to be concerned with tomorrow just yet. Simply take one step at a time. Observe your current situation, and engage with it in a way that’s best for your wellbeing.

  1. Find beauty in every moment. Even the ones that suck.

I’ll be honest, I’m not the best at this. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in negative thought, but it’s so incredibly difficult to drag yourself out of it. I think the important thing is that I try my hardest to see beauty in everything. Don’t get me wrong, I have days where I’m a negative Nancy. However, I try to no allow myself to be consumed with negativity anymore.

There is beauty in breaking your arm, if you’re open to seeing it. Choose possibility, choose beauty, choose to learn, choose to have an open mind, and more importantly choose to have an open heart.

  1. Embrace the surprises in life.

This is my final tip, and probably the hardest thing for me to do myself. Try to go into every situation with as few preconceived ideas as possible. Allow things to just happen, and then roll with it. When we think we know exactly how something is going to happen, we cloud that experience with a ready-made attitude. Simply let life unfold, and give yourself a break from trying to have it all figured out.

A perfect example of me embracing life’s surprises would be this past weekend. I had planned to write this blog post on Saturday, instead, I ended up taking a little road trip with my mother, my partner, and Walter. I could have said no. I could have told my mom we were busy, and just stayed home. I’m so glad I didn’t. I’m so glad, I decided to roll with one of life’s unexpected moments. I ended up having a great time with my family, and I would have missed that opportunity had I not been open to it.

I’ll end things with some pictures from our spontaneous family road trip. Enjoy, and don’t forget to take time to actually live life!

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